Sunday, December 30, 2007

Things not to say to a couple trying to conceive…

My main intention for starting this site was to enlighten my friends and family of the struggles of infertility (IF).  It was hard for us to finally admit we had infertility issues, but once we did, we were accepting of what we had to do in order for us to have a baby together. 

However, there are some people who do not know how it is to struggle through IF and say things that are not so nice.  I want to share some of these things that have been said and hopefully some people will think twice before saying them.  If you have ever said any of these things to me, please do not be offended.  This is my way of letting out some frustration.

“Once you stop trying will be the moment you get pregnant.” Sorry, but the moment I stop trying, I will not just automatically get pregnant.  If that were the case, I would not need to be on all these medicines.

“You are trying to hard.” If I didn’t try, it won’t happen.

“You are still young.  Don’t worry about it so much.  You still have time to get pregnant.” Yes, I am only 26 and still young, but if I don’t try now, its going to be a hell of a lot harder when I get older.

“Why don’t you adopt?  (Insert name/relationship here) got pregnant right after they adopted their first child.” I would love to adopt, but that does not mean that I still do not want a biological child of my own.

“You guys just had to get the IUI done and ruin everyone’s plans for Christmas”  I am not going to start on how this statement was just wrong.

“Just take my kids for a few days.  After that, you won’t want to have any.” I’m sorry, but those are your kids and if you think that I won’t want to have any afterwards, then why the heck did you have them to begin with?

There are more, but I can’t think of any right now.  I will update when I can think of them.

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December 30 - In Alabama

Well, we had our first (and hopefully last) IUI procedure done on Wednesday, Dec. 26.  I think it went well.  Robert and I arrived at the hospital so that he could drop off his boys at 7:30am.  They didn’t call him in until 10 til 8.  He went back to a room and did his thing (for all who are curious, yes, they do provide magazines).  Afterwards, we waited til it was time to go in and see the doctor.  The doc came in around 9:40 and told us that Robert gave us a good count.  After the “sperm wash” there were 32 million swimmers.  Awesome number!  They usually want it to be higher than 20 million.  His swimmers were in this little syringe that I couldn’t believe how small it was.  The nurse made me check that it was properly labeled and that they were not putting someone else’s swimmers inside me.  It had all the correct information so it was good to go.  The only thing that gets me is that, yes, it was labled correctly, but how do I know that what they put in there was my husband’s swimmers?  I know that the hospital would never intentionally do that, but the question did pop up in my mind.

For any woman who has ever had a pap smear, the discomfort was about the same.  Maybe just a little bit more pressure and cramping during the process.  After the doc inseminated me, he had me lay on the table for 30 minutes with my hips elevated and my legs bent.  That was the most uncomfortable 30 minutes of my life.  Imagine it…I was on a regular exam table (one that you all have sat on) and it looks like I am practically standing on my head.  Ok, so maybe standing on my head was a little extreme, but it felt like that.  I luckily remembered to bring my iPod, so it kind of helped the time go faster.  Robert was in there with me too, so that helped as well.

After the IUI was over, it was off to Alabama we go!  Woohoo!  A thirteen hour car ride after being violated (lol) by my doctor.  I experienced horrible cramping during the whole entire ride, but they have gone away.  It felt like ovulation pains, but sometimes I could feel my utereus cramping as well.

Now, we just wait.  Two weeks after the IUI was done is when I should be able to know anything.  Its just killing me having to go through these next two weeks.  At least it is only 10 days away now, but I am sure that 10 days will never seem so long.

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